The words you choose may have something to do with it. That’s right – certain terms and expressions have negative connotations that trigger emotional reactions from women for reasons men may not even think of.
We decided to give you guys out there a break so you don’t have to keep playing guessing games. As the saying goes, when the words are in your mouth they are gold, we hope these insights will help you choose them more wisely!
You’re Crazy: Let’s stop beating around the bush now and call a spade a spade. Men have been calling women insane since ancient Greek times. In fact, hysteria was a once a malady, exclusive to women, fabricated by men and later disproved by Freud. What you may not realize is that saying things to a woman like “you’re insane,” “you must be dreaming” or “that never happened,” even if it’s in jest, is invalidating on so many levels. Because essentially, what you are suggesting is that she is a less intelligent, less rational and less well-grounded individual than you, which will automatically put many woman on the defensive.
Why Do You have to Be So Dramatic?: Seriously folks, when was the last time you saw a topless grown-up woman painted purple and wearing a Viking hat while cheering for her team in the bleachers? And you call us dramatic!? We are all guilty of ASB (attention seeking behavior) so don’t blame women for all the histrionics when many guys are very likely to wail at the first sign of a paper cut, gush over gadgets and lose your cool every time a hat trick happens on ice.
You Must be Getting Your Period: The average menstrual cycle lasts between 3-5 days, so shame any one of you who pull the hormonal card the whole month through. Yes women’s emotions may be heightened during certain key times, but there is no such thing as being too sensitive. If you don’t believe us, just take one look at corporate America in the past two years. The recent financial crisis has proven that those allegedly female qualities, like being intuitive, insightful and compassionate, are more valuable in business than ever before. Now there’s one to grow on.
You Look Fine: There is nothing worse than being told you are mediocre and that’s what this four letter word insinuates. If you really want to compliment a woman, raise the bar a little and be specific about what it is that you love about her. “That dress makes your back look perfect,” “the color highlights your eyes,” or “those boots show off your incredible legs.” Of course, if that is not the case, be honest (gently) with us and not fearful of our reaction. Good or bad, both are better to us women than being plain, old and average.
You Look Fine: There is nothing worse than being told you are mediocre and that’s what this four letter word insinuates. If you really want to compliment a woman, raise the bar a little and be specific about what it is that you love about her. “That dress makes your back look perfect,” “the color highlights your eyes,” or “those boots show off your incredible legs.” Of course, if that is not the case, be honest (gently) with us and not fearful of our reaction. Good or bad, both are better to us women than being plain, old and average.
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